Sarah Monares | Relationship Therapist, Coach & Author

Healthy relationships start with the relationship you have with yourself.

Love them. Don’t lose you.

The hardest part about disconnection is that eventually, you stop recognizing yourself inside of it.

After 20 years of working with clients, I know The Disconnection Loop well. It’s the cycle filled with anxiety, self-doubt, self-abandonment, self-judgment, and people-pleasing that leads to emotional disconnection from yourself and your relationships. Eventually, it leads to withdrawing, shutting down, and numbing out just to temporarily escape the weight of it all.

There comes a point when you realize the old patterns no longer fit. You want something different. You want to reconnect with yourself, your relationships, and your life, but fear keeps pulling you back into the same cycle.

And this doesn’t just affect your relationship with yourself. It shows up in your relationships with others, too. When you’re disconnected from yourself, it becomes difficult to authentically connect with the people around you. Even with supportive people in your life, you can still feel alone, misunderstood, or unseen.

As a licensed relationship therapist, coach, and author, I help people understand the patterns keeping them stuck so they can build healthier relationships, develop deeper self-trust, and reconnect more authentically with themselves and others.

Healing doesn’t happen by pushing harder or trying to “fix” yourself. It begins by learning to feel again. To reconnect with yourself, to trust yourself again, and to finally stop abandoning yourself in order to stay connected to everyone else.

You don’t have to do it alone. I’m here to walk alongside you and give you the tools you need to break the patterns that no longer serve you and create a life and relationships that feel more connected, authentic, and fulfilling.

Who am I?

Therapist | Coach | Author

I’m Sarah Monares, a licensed relationship therapist, coach, and author passionate about helping people navigate the messy, complicated, and deeply human experience of life and relationships.

For over 20 years, I’ve worked with people struggling with anxiety, self-doubt, self-abandonment, emotional disconnection, and unhealthy relationship patterns. My work focuses on helping people understand The Disconnection Loop so they can reconnect with themselves, build healthier relationships, and move through life with greater self-trust and authenticity.

Whether we connect through counseling, coaching, or retreats, my approach is honest, compassionate, supportive, and deeply rooted in real human connection. I believe healing happens when people feel safe enough to stop performing, stop abandoning themselves, and start reconnecting with who they truly are.

In 2023, my family and I moved from Colorado to Portugal as a way to slow down, live more intentionally, and prioritize connection and presence in our everyday lives. Outside of my work, I love travel, hiking, horses, books, meaningful conversations, and continuing to learn and grow alongside the people I support.

Learn more about me

When you’re disconnect from yourself, you can’t be authentically connected to others.

Sarah Monares, MA, MA, LPC

Sarah Monares is sitting on a bench in front of the ocean, looking out.

How I help

Whether you’re struggling with anxiety, unhealthy relationship patterns, emotional disconnection, self-abandonment, or feeling stuck in the same cycles, my work is designed to help you reconnect with yourself and create healthier, more authentic relationships.

Counseling

Counseling creates space for deeper healing, self-understanding, and emotional reconnection. Together, we explore the patterns, fears, conditioning, and past experiences contributing to anxiety, trauma, self-doubt, emotional disconnection, and relationship struggles so you can create lasting change and deeper self-trust.

Coaching

Coaching focuses on helping you move forward differently. Through coaching, hypnosis, NLP, and my frameworks, The Disconnection Loop and CHANGE Method, I help people reconnect with themselves, move through fear, and create lives and relationships that feel more aligned and authentic.

Retreats

Sometimes stepping outside of your everyday environment is what allows you to finally hear yourself clearly again. My retreats are designed to create space for reflection, healing, authentic connection, and reconnection with the parts of yourself that may have been lost beneath the noise, pressure, and patterns of everyday life.

Learn more about the service that’s best for you!